Mizuhime
Did I mistake you for a sign from God?
First off, i'm sorry for your losses. I can't say I know what it's like to lose a parent. But i've seen many go through similar stories.If I was a flavor of coffee, it would be "Depresso"!
Heh.
bad pun. Okay so I am depressed and I'm making this thread in large part to ask people how they cope with depression they have or had, but also to provide a place for other depressed people to vent their feelings and /or just have someone to listen to them. So feel free to post in this thread.
As for me? Well looking back I think my depression started two years ago when my dad died:[ I really loved him a lot and apparently he died from sort of heart thing because he didn't check in with his doctor so he didn't know it was going to happen. We were going back from Modell's and everything with football gear when it happened, and found out at home. Utter devastation. I can remember most of the details even now. Not having a parent around to nurture you as a child is really harsh, i mean especially at adolescence when so much shit is happening anyway. My mom is usually at work too, so it's like, fuck. I've only begun to realize the extent of my depression yesterday, BUT its been there in some form since basically august 2014, when he died.
so yeah there's my story, feel free to post
I've had a couple stints with depression, once when my best friends father died and we were in the room to see it, and one recently when I faced the fact i'm really not ready to grow up and search for a house and have a baby and all of this other shit. It all just hit me at once. As for coping, everyone does it differently obviously. Some people will go be social so they get their mind off it, some people hit the bottle, one of the most effective things i've found is that a really good cry helps.
Of course you don't really want to open up and spill your feelings all over the place, but trust me you are not strong enough to keep them bottled up, and if you do you'll just explode. No one is strong enough or should ever keep everything bottled up. I'm going to make the assumption and say you've got at least one best friend, one person you can spill your guts to and they wont judge you, trust me they wont. They don't want to see you suffer just as much as you don't want to suffer. Have a heart to heart with them. Let the waterworks start. A good cry never hurt anyone and never will. Once you start to acknowledge the problem I find it becomes easier to deal with. The people around you will help once they know what's hurting you. Even if you don't feel ready to spill your emotions all over the place in real life, you have friends online too. I'm sure of that. Smogon is a very welcoming place and lots of people will listen to your rant about life (I know I will). For me, I wasn't ready to spill my emotions to everyone so I talked to my good buddy McMeghan one morning and cried my face off before bed, just to know that I can talk about it. Then me and my boyfriend had a good conversation about it and I cried to him too. Once you talk, it all becomes easier. Don't keep your emotions bottled up, it's not good for you and will hurt you more in the long run. Tell people how you feel and they will help you, they want to help you, no one wants to see anyone suffer.