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if i put it under her it goes numb, if i put it in front of me then its pressing into her back, if i put it above my head my shoulder hurts. please help me smogoff, my relationships are disintegrating
The big spoon arm placement is one of the many reasons i advocate working out. As a former obese teen now turned to buff heartthrob, i can tell you that having big arms is absolutely a solution. The key is to have her rest her head on the bicep/tricep cushion of dreams that is your arm. Its no pillow replacement, but Laura seems to enjoy laying her head on my arm.
In fact, some girls love laying their head on a nice big arm so much that there are even arm pillows out there one can buy
Alternatively, you can also spoon in different positions that are more arm comfort friendly. Below are some examples.
Laura especially loves laying her head on my pecs, so i also strongly advocate working out your chest.
Pro tip: Shave your chest and keep it smooth if you have a lady friend that likes cuddling.
All in all, i look forward to my workout today. This post has really put me in the mood.