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It doesn’t matter at all whether or not the shiny is the dad or mom. Unless it’s a ditto I believe. Destiny knot only effects the ivs.
Also I know people have told you this isn’t the right place to post about this; but there is a forum for asking this exact type of questions
>>Orange Islands<<
And there’s also a specific thread to ask this exact type of questions